Hello everyone. Sorry it has been so long since my last post, let’s just say life isn’t going exactly right these days. But that is just the way life is huh?
Today’s post was inspired by not only the amazing Deathcab for Cutie song but also by so many different life experiences I’ve had which I’m sure so many of you have had also. Sometimes no matter how badly you want something to work out with someone they just don’t feel the same way. Yeah it hurts, oh boy does it hurt, might even hurt so bad you’re unsure if you’ll ever recover. But in the end you always do.
You’ll be loved you’ll be loved, like you never have known, and your memories of me will seem more like bad dreams. Just a series of blurs like I never occurred. Someday you will be loved”
Its so so funny though because in the moment you think you’ll NEVER move on from that person and when everyone says you will you just freak out like “no I won’t don’t tell me I will get over them because I’ll never love anyone else for as long as I live!” But we all know that’s being a bit dramatic. I mean half the time we only think we love someone just to realize later how we may have liked them a lot but we definitely didn’t love them. Not to discredit or dismiss anyone’s feelings of course, it’s just that things always seem much bigger in the moment than they really are.
As for me, I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum, I have been the one hurting someone telling them they’ll move on from me and I’ve also been the one being let down easy. It all hurts just the same. It’s never fun to end things with someone even if you don’t feel the same way they do you still feel something for them. Which is something to remember when someone ends it with you, you must know that they do care and they do want you to be happy, if they didn’t they would just keep stringing you along for their own benefit.
I think it’s important to be the bigger person and end something if you don’t think you’ll be able to give them what they want. Because if you just keep things the way they are, knowing they like you more than you like them, that makes you an asshole. I know it’s hard because even if you don’t like someone more than a friend it’s comforting to have someone there for you and everyone knows regular sex isn’t the biggest downside in the world haha. But if you’re the one who doesn’t want things to move forward than unfortunately it’s your responsibility to end things.
[Currently Listening to Someday You Will Be Loved by: Deathcab for Cutie]