Hello everyone! Ugh I know it has been SO long since my last post; I have been working A LOT of extra hours trying to save some money for 4th of July in Vegas!
Today’s post is all about Timing, as you can see from the post title quote (courtesy of Fault in Our Stars) and also the photo and quote pictured above. I don’t know about all of you but one thing I absolutely despise is when Time just refuses to stay on the same clock as me…
For example: Why is it that when I am ready and willing to jump into a relationship there are NO potential suitors? Like, I put in all this effort to make myself look nice and presentable, only go out and see absolutely NO ONE of interest. It’s not even like I’m super picky either, okay who am I kidding, I’m a woman of COURSE I’m picky. But I definitely don’t set standards that are completely out of my reach, I actually think my standards for potential boyfriends is pretty logical, with the exception of Ansel Egort of course (hey you never know lol). Moving on…
How frustrating is it being a single guy/girl? To go out without finding at least one person worthy of a little innocent flirting. Sure you could go along with it and give one of those options a chance… I personally am not a strong believer in the whole “dating for the sake of dating” or “better than being alone” way of living that everyone else has grown so accustomed to. Honestly I think those are two of the worst reasons to be with someone. Call me old fashioned, but I believe the act of dating was designed to find your future husband/wife, not to mask your fears/insecurities. Trust me, whatever you’re distracting yourself from will eventually poke its head out of the water and when they do you can expect an immense amount of turmoil to follow.
Truth is, EVERYONE ends up alone at some point (no life is not like the Notebook. It’s very unlikely that you and your husband/wife will die sleeping in each others arms). I advise taking advantage of your youth to work on loving yourself to eliminate those weaknesses holding you back. That way when you do find THE ONE, you will actually be capable of loving them the way one should be loved, and accepting it the same way.
Let’s continue… Another issue I have with that little floozy we all know as “Time” is the other side of the spectrum. That point in your life when you really don’t want to be in a relationship (yes some of us do want to focus on our own happiness before signing our lives away in exchange for a life making someone else happy) but of course good ol’ Time has something else in mind. All of a sudden you can’t even go to the grocery store without being asked out or hit on, and if it’s happening at the store just imagine how much worse it is at bars. Say goodbye to “girls night” and hello to the guy/girl who ends up joining your table at one point in the evening. Oh, and don’t even try to explain that you’re not dating and why, because all they register from that is “I’m no easy feat, I’ll be a huge challenge, try and win me!”.
It slightly offends me whenever I’m on a dating hiatus, and in the attempt to politely explain it to a guy, his response is an attempt to CONVINCE me that I don’t want to be alone I actually want a relationship…with him… obviously. Uhm hello, I think I am of sound enough mind to know what it is that I want, but thanks for your opinions of how I am living my life confused and unhappy because I am single. However, trying to fault them for it is useless, for they’re just on a different schedule than you; They want a relationship but no one they meet is ready or willing (you know what that’s like remember?).
Perhaps a solution to these issues with Time would be for all of us to buy the same watch? Just a thought.
I will end this post with a brief visit to one more example of Time related nonsense, the one time zone I haven’t mentioned, because it just hurts my heart to even think about… In this moment you’re in the second instance of time, not even thinking about finding someone or dating, you meet that one person who is absolutely perfect for you. You just KNOW right then and there, it’s magnetic, and it’s the most common circumstance of finding someone in the same TIME zone as you are… Only it “isn’t the right time”. And sure you tell yourself, hell you might even tell each other, that when the timing is right you two will find one another and be together. But come on, let’s be honest, how often do you hear of that happening?
Because I knew that you would be all right
And in my heart, you would stay a while with me
And we danced until the morning light
And you said to me, you said we’ll be all right
Yeah, we’ll be all right”
[Currently Listening to: Be Alright By Lucy Rose]