This is where I draw the line…

Happy Friday everyone. I am so looking forward to this weekend it is not even funny. Last night my Law Office went bowling and it was so much fun but ended up being kind of a late night so I am exhausted.

For today’s post I wanted to write on the subject of “personal space” and boundaries. I am not sure how those of you out there feel about this but as far as I am concerned I definitely like my space. I am not sure if it is due to the fact that for SO long I w as dependent on my boyfriend, or men in general, to make me feel safe and secure. Or if it is because I am finally stable and on my own in my own place without having to share it with anyone. Whatever the reason may be, I have grown accustomed to going home to an empty house, and sleeping in a bed all alone.

So, when it does come time to share that space again, I am definitely NOT a “cuddle while we sleep” kind of girl. It isn’t that I don’t enjoy cuddling, I do, just in the appropriate times. I just have enough trouble sleeping as it is what with my insomnia and etc. that I really don’t need any more discomfort added to the mix. And I am sorry but I do not find being unable to adjust or breathe while I sleep comfortable AT ALL. I like to sleep how I like to live: Free and Independent. Yes I have run into problems concerning this issue with guys I have dated. For instance, I know some of my actions in a relationship make me appear cold or uninterested, but that really isn’t the case.

I guess another huge part of it is the whole concept of Trust. I mean there is just no way I am going to invite someone into my personal sanctuary unless I know for sure that they are not someone that is going to peace out after a week or two. My home is my safe place you know? It is my comfort zone and I am not about to allow someone to invade it and tarnish it with negative energy so that I can constantly be reminded of how I was totally lied to or cheated on or used for a one night stand…. do you see where I am going with this?

So yeah I am very particular about who I invite in and who I share my bed with but I am okay with that because at the end of the day, when I get home from a long day at work, I sit on my bed and I am so calm and comfortable in my home. I just refuse to let someone ruin that.

“Don’t ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up” -Robert Frost


[Currently Listening to: Relief Next to Me by Tegan and Sara]


  1. 1. I commend you on not being a needy, bed-hogging cuddle freak. Too many girls are.

    2. I additionally commend you on being selective/particular about who you invite to share your bed. Far too many girls I encounter speak about “picking up” or “getting laid” like they’re men. It’s disgusting.

    1. Thanks. Yeah I take pride in being independent and being secure with being alone. And yeah girls lost the concept of class I wrote a blog about that a little while ago. It is pretty ridiculous.

    2. Wow, that double standard… So it’s ok for men to ‘pick up’ chicks and ‘get laid’ but somehow that doesn’t also apply to women? People like you are what’s wrong with the world.

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