The Method to my Madness? Confidence.

20131005-180824.jpgGood evening blog readers. Last night I had a girls night with a two of my favorite ladies out in LA. We had such a blast at this bar Busby’s, taking shots, dancing, and making friends. I noticed a commons theme of the night was relationship advice so I decided to touch on that in today’s blog.

People have asked me about what I do when it comes to going out and meeting guys and I’ll tell you it is pretty simple: confidence. That’s all it takes. Do not over think it because as soon as you start doing that everything gets way too confusing. People are attracted to strength and confidence, they don’t want to do all the work, but they also don’t want you to do it all either. It needs to be an even effort, but let face it, there is something so sexy about that initial “first move”.

I know that it is nerve racking. You never know how the person will respond or if they are even single. So when you walk in and that special someone catches your eye, my advice to you is don’t think, just do! Walk right up and say something! Don’t hesitate and don’t be anything but yourself. Take me for instance, I am a total nerd, super goofy and loud, and I don’t hide any bit of that. Whatever guy I find that I want to approach and get to know needs to know the real me, because to be honest, if he isn’t going to like that part of me then why do I want to waste my time flirting at all? Because even if you’re not flirting with the intention of looking for a potential date, you just never know where it could end up, so don’t start off pretending to be someone you’re not.

Another big key to flirting I find to be successful is: humor. A sense of humor goes a LONG way because everyone loves to laugh and it’s an amazing ice breaker to eliminate any awkwardness. What I like to do is actually create some sort of awkward moment on purpose, not only does it start things off with comic relief, but from there it’s almost impossible to slip into anything awkward from that point on (unless you create it yourself). Ladies: guys find it extremely attractive when you aren’t afraid to get a little embarrassed. It shows a little bit of vulnerability and it shows them something real, people aren’t perfect so don’t try to be, just be exactly who you are.

It’s just that I don’t want to be somebody’s crush. If somebody likes me, I want them to like the real me, not what they think I am. And I don’t want them to carry it around inside. I want them to show me, so I can feel it too.” -The Perks of Being a Wallflower

To finish this off I will tell you a few things I have done when it comes to the art of making the first move.Personally, I really have no shame and it takes a lot for me to get embarrassed, I am just too strong of a believer in taking chances. So if I see someone I am attracted to I immediately approach them and ask them their name and start up a conversation. If they tell me they have a girlfriend or just aren’t very interested then I am polite and I just say nice meeting them and walk away. Last night after sharing a few things in common with a guy I made a joke that we were practically engaged and I introduced him to my friends as my fiancĂ©. He thought it was hilarious and before he walked away he ended up asking me for my number. Of course the guy who really caught my eye was the bartender so what did I do? Left my number on my receipt for him. Fingers crossed!

Hope you’re all enjoying your Saturday night!



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